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Aug 02, 2020
Believe in YOU!
Have you ever felt like you weren’t good enough?
I totally have myself. It almost feels like when it rains it pours, everything all just comes at you at once. Then you start to ask yourself all of the questions of what you are doing wrong or why aren’t you good enough. The thing is, you are good enough. You are everything you want to be. The outside noise always wants to win. It wants you to think that you aren’t pretty enough, smart enough or whatever those thoughts are for you. You have to know for yourself though that you are beautiful inside & out. It doesn’t happen overnight, and I’m not here to say it's easy. It might take a few years because it easily could. It's the process of the work that you have to keep pushing through. It's when you have to find your own inner strength. You need to know for yourself that you can do anything you put your mind to. Even if that is just starting to believe in yourself more and more.
I know as a girl it's hard to sit & have patiences & not pick yourself a part. I’ll be the first to tell you, I pick myself apart all the time. I’m not saying it's right or that I don’t believe in myself, but that I am human and also the girl, who's very hard on myself. I think a lot of us might be. Let me tell you about one of my favorite words & maybe it will help you also.
One of them is Believe. Might ask me why is that my favorite word? Especially since I didn’t ever even believe in myself. The reason why the word believe was & is my favorite is because I've worked really hard to believe in the word & myself.
Growing up I struggled with a learning disability & it was very hard for me to expect it. Middle school/high school, I for sure wasn’t by any means the ‘pretty girl’ I just wanted to BE like the ‘pretty girls’ instead, I had braces on, and that
Christina Aguilera 90’s hair color that was blonde and red?
In those years of high school, I had my passion for skating. I totally used that as my outlet, I guess you would say. Even in skating though, I didn’t believe in myself either. I never thought I was fast enough, like the other girls, or good
enough like them either. Racing against older girls or even sometimes the guys, I would be scared to death to race them. Until sometimes, my coach would chase after me on the skating floor until I wasn’t scared anymore. He would teach me how to be a racer & know that I could be the racer. Not to ever back down from anymore. The thought of fear had to be out
the window! It for sure made me a better skater to never back down. As a skater, I was always right there, I wasn’t first or last, but always right there. 4th and final position, it was as if me and 4th place were the best of
Friends. Fast forwarding some years, out of high school and starting adulthood, I still didn't believe in myself. Nor was I even coming close to it.
I was now entering my early 20s and I had just crossed over to a new sport of long track speed skating. The wheels, I knew everything about. How to fix them, change the wheels, just put them on my feet & skate!
This whole new ice world, was a totally different sense for me, and I for sure didn’t believe in myself then.
Now that skating was my entire life. I never dated in high school, nor have a boyfriend. That there sure, were definitely boys, I liked, but they
were’t ever going to like me back. All my friends had boyfriends & then there was just me the girl, who didn’t believe in herself. I just wanted to be like everyone else, and have someone like me, was that so much to ask for? I mean
I didn’t think, I was asking for a million dollars, or even a makeover! Just one simple wish to come true.
Well what I have learned about the word believing is that, it just doesn’t come to you overnight, and that you have to work
a little to get it. You might laugh or ask, why you would have to “work” for it, well the reason, why you would have to work for it, is because only YOU can believe in you.
It's just like practice and if you play a sport or practice anything in life, it's about the repetition, you have to practice & practice at just believing in yourself.
I know it is easier said than done, I get that, Trust me, but once you do, it's a huge game changer for sure!
The reason why I say it's a “game changer” is because maybe you could be the one, who doesn’t believe in yourself and you are trying to find ways to start to believe in yourself. You have to find the little things in yourself that you make you happy. Find them for yourself and take pride in what they are. Keep working on yourself before anything else. When you start to just believe in yourself you start to believe in other things in life as well. As maybe it's the job you want, the guy, the friendship, family relationship. It can be literally anything in life, but when you start to believe in you, you start to believe in everything!
I say all this and give my personal examples to help you if you could be the one who’s trying to believe in yourself. Asking all of the questions of “why not me?” or “why don’t I believe in myself” or any of the questions that you do ask yourself & maybe even pick yourself apart. I’m here to tell you that you are one amazing human being. Don’t beat yourself up. Don’t let the outside noise win. You are in control of your thoughts and what you want. Things will come and happen always when we least expect it. So keep praying, keep your head up, keep pushing yourself, and always no matter what, ALWAYS KEEP BELIEVING IN YOU!
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Let that sink in for a bit as you read it. You might be wondering what that even means. Spiritual friendship isn’t something you just come across or even recognize right off the bat (at least for me, it wasn’t). It’s a friend, or group of friends, who lead and point you to God. I never knew what it truly was until I joined my church and was introduced to small groups. My small group was a group of women who met every Thursday. We’d do a Bible study together then discuss what we’d learned on the topic of what we were following and diving into. I really started to feel not only what “spiritual friendship” was but more of even the meaning of “true friends.” Before I made these spiritual friendships, I’d never been around a group of women that would pray together and talk vulnerably to help one another with the best advice they could. As it was then handed to God we knew & trusted that He would always point us in the direction of where it was going to lead us. Friendships are very important and always have an important meaning behind them, as every friend you have is - different from one another. That is what is so special about friendships and having so many different ones. Each one is unique and special to you. I just want you to know, I’m not here to tell you how to be a good friend or even be a Spiritual Friend, just want to give my meaning of friendships of my own. As they are very important to me, as it's where good friends become your family as well as lifting one another up. Friends are how you get to pick who you want to be in your circle to do life with. They understand everything that you are going through and will always be there for you, no matter what. The little catch is… You yourself have to be a good friend also. This starts just within you! If you aren’t a good friend to yourself, you can’t be a good friend to anyone else. you have to love yourself to be able to give yourself to others. What you put into you is just as important as what you give out to your friendships. If you aren’t happy with yourself, you won’t be happy with others. To know who you truly are, you have to fully dig within yourself. There are a few pieces. Confidence within you, believe in yourself, love yourself for who you are, and most importantly, stand up for who you are! If you are confident with who you are, you’ll be able to attract confidence in friendships. You want the ones who lift one another up. I love seeing my friends grow in who they are and chase the dream they want. You want to see them succeed, be happy for them, and cheer them along the way. Cause hey! Not everyone is always “perfect” or on their best game for that day. When you need a little belief or whatever it may be, your friends are able to help lift you up and remind you who you are! It's a hard world out there and even a cruel one. Why be so cruel to one another, when you can lift and help one another out? As you succeed, so do your friends. It’s a huge momentum circle where one feeds off another, to then lead into another. The more momentum you have, the more you grow stronger as a bond and always help each other out. Friendships are always for seasons of life. they are put into certain parts of your life, for when you might need that exact friend to be able to help you. Each one has its own story to be able to grow with you. “Friendship is the greatest of worldly goods. Certainly, to me it is the chief happiness of life. If I had to give a piece of advice to a young man about a place to live, I think I should say, ‘Sacrifice almost everything to live where you can be near your friends.’” C.S. Lewis Love that quote! I hope you can understand how important friendships are, what they stand for, and who they are. Without friendships, you won’t have much. As friendships really are the greatest of worldly goods! Says C.S. Lewis. Also along with C.S. Lewis, I couldn’t agree more, “to me it is the chief of happiness of life’ As it is! Love your friends, as you love yourself At the same time, the more you love your friends, the more you love yourself and are able to love them even more! Be who you are and give what you have! Love one another as God has loved you! Be the friend who you want to have.New Paragraph
Why hello again! I feel it's been a little bit since I’ve posted a blog or even gotten to write. So here we are. I write or post my blogs on what I feel inspires me that week or if something fun & exciting happens. So they might be all over the place & I apologize for that, but that is also just who I am. All over the place! With that being said, let's just dive into it. Have you ever felt you couldn’t make the choice to just say “yes” and go after what you want? There might be a few of us. It’s never easy, just to make the choice to say “yes” it comes with a lot of feelings behind it. Fear, anxiety, not thinking positive, just being scared, scared of the outcome, I mean there’s a lot that could be stopping you. The catch is.. WHAT IF YOU CHOSE TO SAY “YES” I’m not saying there isn’t going to be a lot of work behind it and scary, don’t get me wrong. It is scary, but there’s always the other hand. The hand of choice that you, yourself get to pick. You get to say “yes” even if it's scary in the middle of the storm. If you are going to be brave enough(which I know you are) to say “yes to the choice” you must also have the courage to stick to your vision because it will be tested. That I can promise you myself. Now that I’ve entered the new chapter of a season of life it hasn’t been easy. I won't lie to you. It hasn’t been butterflies & rainbows. Probably because if it was, it wouldn’t be worth it. With every challenge comes a storm. You just have to know you will be tested. That you are stronger than what you think, because of you. Yourself knows the outcome you want. You don’t stop until you get there. The work has been & be will cut out for you, but how are you going to keep working towards what you want? I’m here to say that because you have a choice to say “yes” you have the steps to move you forward, you have a choice to use what you’ve been gifted. It’s a gift you’ve been given. Especially when it's something you want to go after. When others might be questioning you, or you yourself even might be. Know you are strong enough within yourself because you said “yes!” Nobody else did or did it for you, but YOU! You said it for yourself to set your goals & dreams out to whatever they are. Don’t care what others think. This is what you get to pick for yourself. When you might be having those hard days, or questioning yourself because you will have those. It's something that just comes along with it. Know that it is completely normal to have those bad days because that is what makes your YES even stronger. You’ve committed to yourself. You owe yourself everything! Always be proud of what you are going after! I’m proud of you for saying “YES” even when it's so scary & you aren’t sure of the outcome. Write YES on a mirror you see every day or even something you see that can remind you, of what you are going after. Some of the littlest words are yet so strongly. I'm so excited for you to move forward & keep one foot in front of the other. YES! YES! YES! Go say “YES!”